Tag: depression

  • Well-being in tech – Who really cares?

    Well-being in tech – Who really cares?

    As a freelance consultant for more than 15 years I skip from company to company of different sizes in different industries. For the last two years I have been very close to the IT-tech industry. I love to work with the “Nerds” and “Geeks” and I like the atmosphere on the devopsdays I have attended. But I am really confused about one important problem, which never ever occurred to me in this big mass before than it does in the tech industry: problems with health, psychosomatic disorders and mental illnesses.

    Whenever I talk with some of the tech folk, sooner or later hints of these problems appear and with asking the right questions, lots of people start talking about their problems in the past. They talk about back problems, a lot of headaches and neck tensions. At first glance this seem to be very clear because of bad body posture combined with a lack of physical activity and perhaps bad nutrition. But the roots for these problems can also be psychosomatically. These are by the way just the “light problems”.

    So many people told me about their burnouts, depression and other mental illnesses; they have also told me about being “out of job” for a year or more! And they have talked about the need for liters of coffee to get through the day, caffeine pills, energy-drinks and cigarettes! At devopsdays Amsterdam @botchagalupe talked about some talented and enthusiastic young techs and their Karo jisatsu – their suicide from overwork!

    My job in companies is to coach employees and leaders on topics like communication, team culture and leadership. And with these topics the question of well-being is always involved. So when I started with my first clients in the IT industry I did a lot of research and I found some studies about health problems in Germany. These studies said that tech people do not often stay at home because of common colds or something like that. But it told that there are above average problems in matters of nervousness, insomnia, stomach problems, mood swings, depressions and burnout. And there is an extremely outstanding usage of anti-depressants and other psychotropic drugs.

    There are other studies about pharmacological neuroenhancement and brain doping – the consumption of drugs to increase the “brain power” without medical necessity – which are frightening to me.

    What really puzzles me about this is, that all the people talk about colleagues with some kind of these problems or about their own experiences; that they know about it – and then they go on and “do business as usual” – nothing happens!

    Like a neon sign there is one big question in my head: Who really cares about well-being in tech?

    But why are there that many health problems in the IT-industry? On the one hand it is because of the nature of IT: faster and better is the credo of IT-projects. Continuous or daily delivery put a lot of pressure on the employees. Management systems like Scrum or Kanban and methodologies like Devops try to meet the requirements of the market. But are the single individuals really fit for it? What is done to enable the employees to meet these systems or methodologies on eye-level so that they feel well with it?

    Special management systems and methodologies need special skills – technical skills as well as soft skills. The companies´ focus is a lot on technical skill education, but mostly they don´t care about strengthening the soft skills! Employees are left alone with issues of bad communication, misunderstandings in the team, leadership full of pressure and – caused by this all: bad emotions and feelings!

    Now let´s have a look at the people working in the IT industry! One big skill, you really need to work successfully in IT is the ability to concentrate and focus on one special issue, to submerge into one task and fade out the rest around you. I experience this at home once a while, because my companion in life is a software architect and CEO. Being in a demanding project his head is working 24/7 and it seems as if nothing else could reach him. The ability to fade out everything which is not important for the project is on the one hand a gift but on the other hand it could be a really dangerous demon if even the physical and mental needs of oneself are faded out! This will perhaps be okay for a period of three months or so. But reality could be that project is followed by project and the period is no period any longer; it is the norm! People start with too much coffee every single day, caffeine pills or energy drinks or even worse with brain doping! Being tired or headaches often are signals, the body is sending us in case to stop us. But with ignoring the signals and working against them with some kind of drugs, situations will get worse! A downward spiral is started.

    What kind of life is it, if we do not care for our own well-being?

    The next point is, that the IT and tech-industry is still mostly a men´s world – sorry ladies, hope that will change some day! And even in modern times, in a men´s world you do not talk about emotions, excessive demands and mental illnesses, because lot of people believe that these are signs of weakness! So the risk is very real that people try to hide their problems until it is too late.

    So, who has to care for the well-being? WE ALL DO!

    At first everyone has to take care of their own individual well-being and pay attention to what our bodies are telling us! If we don´t care for ourselves, how will we be able to take care for others?

    Then there are colleagues, who should have a closer look at each other and talk about emotions and problems. Communication is a very important key for the well-being and the recognition of health and mental problems.

    Last but not least there are the leaders who play, to my opinion, a vital role in this issue. They are responsible for the success as well as for the employees. But what will happen to the success if the employees are insane or out of job for a long time?

    A paradigm shift is the only way! You all know about the problem! So please start to take care of yourself and of others! This will boost yourself personally and the team´s and company´s success!

  • Balancing Between Impostor, Blowhard, and Burnout

    Balancing Between Impostor, Blowhard, and Burnout

    I’m glad John Willis wrote his post on karojisatsu, or suicide from overwork, and that it has been getting the attention it deserves in the community. If it weren’t for the push behind the article that has kept it surfacing in my feeds the past few days I definitely wouldn’t have realized I needed to stop and write this right now.

    It’s great that this issue has been brought to our attention and the community response has been awesome. I’ve seen a lot of people offer their availability for anyone that needs someone to talk with, but there’s definitely some frustration surrounding what can be done to help without offering useless platitudes, as Gene Kim so eloquently put it.

    I have noticed a cycle I can get caught up in that can leave me in a bad place, but now that I’m aware of it I’ve been better at avoiding it. I wanted to share my experience so that others dealing with any of these problems have something they can try that may help.

    Be Confident, but not a Blowhard
    Christina Xu recently posted her thoughts on blowhard and impostor syndrome. I agree we all have areas we’re comfortable in and shouldn’t take on any work we don’t feel comfortable doing. It doesn’t matter if it’s because we don’t feel we’re qualified to do it yet or if we just aren’t interested in a particular space. Anyone that doesn’t immediately jump head first into a technology isn’t suffering from impostor syndrome. Anyone that does or says they can is probably being a blowhard.

    I can and do move in and out of a lot of different spaces in tech but I definitely know my limits. I never really learned much C++ and have no business writing it. However, if the need came up and it made dollars and sense I would try to take some time to transition into C++. This would take months, not weeks, and it would be a lot of hard work. I would even argue it would be painful, but I’m not scared of hard work if it’s worth it.

    I Allow a Reasonable Amount of Time to Transition
    I have no plans to touch any C++ any time soon. I am presently moving back into JavaScript though which shouldn’t be too bad. I’ve been working in JavaScript since I was in middle school but I haven’t done any deep diving in this space in years. I remember wanting to learn backbone and marionette but the need and the time to transition never lined up. I’ve been working with mostly back end code like services, DAO layers, and build tools the past few years. I’ve used JavaScript sparingly for things it does well, but I haven’t had to think very hard about JavaScript in a while. I really need to gather my self confidence as I dive back into JS, and that means I am at risk of being a bit of a blowhard. Allowing time to transition can keep me from getting too far ahead of myself.

    Asking someone if they “ know” JS is a very vague question that could lead to a lot of misunderstandings these days. I need things like angular, ember, node, and D3 but they’re all pretty new to me. It’s really awesome that there’s all this new stuff to play with and better tools to use. I feel I can do more with less thanks to the changes that have happened in the JavaScript ecosystem since the last time I was here.

    True Impostor Syndrome
    I didn’t always have such reasonable expectations about how fresh a particular knowledge base was in my mind. Years ago I would have dove back into JS head first expecting things to be where I left them and then panicked when I realized the landscape had changed and my skills were rusty. If this realization came late at night after a particularly hard day (never mind week or month) it could leave me in a very bad place. In that moment it’s easy to declare yourself a failure of a human being and vow to never code again. This is true impostor syndrome. At it’s worst it can lead to thoughts of ending one’s own life.

    I Limit My WIP to Account for Adversity
    Impostor syndrome can attack when you’re working in a domain your comfortable in as well. Because there’s so much work available it’s easy to take on too much. When you’re spread too thin, teetering towards burn out and then slip on a banana peel of an issue with no slack in your WIP to accommodate it you can end up in the same pit of despair.

    How I Deal with Burnout
    I’ve come to the conclusion it’s better to be proactive in avoiding these scenarios than reactive in responding to them but we need to do both. Let’s assume you’re burned out from trying to transition too quickly or taking on more work than you should have. These things often lead into each other I’ve come to find. Here’s what I do when I know I’ve bagged my limit.

    Step Away from the Keyboard
    Taking time off seems obvious but we can’t always drop everything and take a week or even a whole day off. There are things I do to mandate several daily breaks during different parts of the week. The key here isn’t to decide if I have time to do them, I just drop what I’m doing and go do them on principle. Whatever I’m putting down should be able wait. This is about establishing a lifestyle change more than just taking a break.

    Exercise
    If you don’t do anything start with daily walks outside or yoga and meditation. I’m better off doing these twice a day for 15 minutes than going to a class once a week. It wasn’t until I started doing these things this regularly that I started to really feel the benefits. Even a stroll around the office building for some fresh air when the heat gets hot can do you a world of good.

    Eat Right
    GIGO in it’s truest form. Eat healthy stuff and splurge in moderation. My family eats fish and vegetables almost every night because it’s healthy, quick, and relatively inexpensive (if we buy the vacuum sealed frozen fillets). I’ve been working on drinking more water and less coffee. We do have a larger meal filled with red meat and chocolate desserts every couple of weeks at least. I believe any food that’s good for your soul is soul food but it’s usually not very healthy from a nutritional perspective. You should definitely eat it in moderation anyway.

    Go to Sleep!
    I used to get home and poke at work in front of the TV until late at night with the DVR spewing garbage at me. I got rid of the DVR and only watch shows as it’s convenient. I get to bed by 10pm more frequently and feel like I’m making better use of my evenings. I have trouble sleeping more than 6 hours at a time, but I try to leave room for 8 in case I need it and I definitely take it when I do.

    Find a Computer-Free Hobby
    I happen to be very passionate about BBQ. I try to smoke some brisket or pork at least once a month. I also play a handful of instruments very casually as I don’t want it to turn into more work. Band practice and playing gigs takes a lot of energy and would not result in the desired effect in my particular scenario.

    Volunteer
    Nothing will make you feel like you matter in this world than giving back and being of service. I coach my kids’ soccer team but the sincerity of the “thanks Coach!” I get from some of the kids and their parents feels really good. I completely wasn’t expecting it but I now understand why some coaches stay in the program long after their kids have grown up and moved away.

    There are a lot of people eager to learn to program that would love your help. Look in your community and see who you can help with HTML and CSS. It doesn’t have to be children either. A lot of adults are look to refresh these skills or are trying to move into technology from another field. They would love a mentor they can learn from and you’ll end up being better at what you’re teaching too.

    They also need help at food banks, animal shelters, and many other places. Find something you care about and try to get involved. Trust me, you’ll feel better about life.

    No Burn Out BBQ and Free Cookies
    I am also here for you if you need me. Specifically, if you’re in the Atlanta area and need someone to talk to hit me up. You could live here or be through on business but I will absolutely break out and come meet you if it’s at all possible. I feel the face to face interaction is needed for me to really connect with someone and give them my undivided attention.

    On that note, I’m interested in starting a No Burn Out BBQ to provide an opportunity to do all of these things in Atlanta. Having a BBQ one weekend a month would get us away from the keyboards and outside into the fresh air. It takes a lot of volunteers to get the meal together, and it would provide a safe place to come talk about burn out on top of serving as a monthly reminder to unplug and decompress a bit.

    I have a side project with my kids’ that involves sending people cookies and a drawing for filling out a survey. I’ve opened a survey to gauge the level of interest in a No Burn Out BBQ. Feel free to answer this even if you don’t live in Atlanta. If I get a large enough response from a community we’ll figure out how to hold a BBQ there too. There’s also a fair chance that some cookies and a picture in the mail will do you more good than you realize.

    Please don’t be shy.  You’re in a community that really does care and wants to help. If you prefer something anonymous the Suicide Prevention Life Line is available. Even if you’re not at risk and just want to talk to somebody you can reach out to them 24 hours a day, 7 days a week: 1-800-273-TALK